Thank you so much for putting this Blog together. I hope so; otherwise I will have spent the best years of my life putting him thru grad school and med school. My ex called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened, that he wanted me to return to him, that he loves me so much. They don't get easier, the demands of the hospital and patients will always come first. All this said, God is love and fully understands and appreciates your problem. Such beliefs make the girls confident about being women.
You would think surrounded by kids and being off every day would not be lonely but never having anyone to share your kids achievements with in person is hard. Her church is more important to her than you are ever will beplain and simple. Did you know Joseph smith married the wives of other living men. What a bozza topic. The doctrinal and afterlife issues around a non-temple marriage are an entirely different topic, and one that I am personally much more at peace with than my questions about how one might make an interfaith marriage work in this life. She has to come to the realization that the church may not be infallible, it can't be forced on her or proven to her. Play with fire if you don't fear getting burned.
But I believe, doctor or not, a relationship is all about supporting one another and making sacrifices. Keep yourself busy and do what you would normally be doing besides sitting around waiting for a guy to call. Make sure everyone involved is a couple, or at least is paired with someone. But I've met those 3 dates to engagement couples. I wish you the best of luck. But from what you said, this girl doesn't sound like she is going to be content to have a marriage for time only. Because if you can't live and let live, you both need to dive deep into this stuff and figure out what you believe and want in your life. If she can't or won't consider that the church is a lie, you need to move on because this relationship can't go anywhere. We would have a movie night at his apartment on a Saturday night and the next few days would be great. She's a shell of her former self and it breaks by heart to this day.
And it can be done any time during the day, so scheduling is easy. It's a foolish dream I suppose. You will get to mingle with a lot of new people, and who knows, maybe you will also find the guy or girl of your dreams there. Not one little bit. It is not easy for a nonmember spouse to understand a three hour worship block plus callings etc. This blog accommodates some frank admissions about that which is less than wonderful about LDS.