But how often do we hear the nitty-gritty of how we can actually better understand our deepest desires and most embarrassing questions? Bustle has enlisted Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist , to help us out with the details. No gender, sexual orientation, or question is off limits, and all questions remain anonymous. Because, let's face it, you know that you deserve the best. Q: I have never been able to orgasm during sex. Intercourse feels amazing; I particularly like vigorous, deep thrusting. But even when it is as rough as I like it, I never climax.

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Why You Don’t Orgasm During Sex
Sex is a pretty instinctual process. You get horny, you get together, and you slam your bodies around for a bit. In fact, a heap of sex research suggests that only about a quarter of women hit climax during intercourse. Some blame the statistics on a lack of clitoral stimulation during penetration.
The Best Sex Positions for Female Orgasm
Everyone wants that! Sit in a chair and have your partner put two fingers on either side of your clitoris, scissoring their fingers together while gently licking or sucking the tip of your clit. Not only does this allow for deeper penetration, but you can have them knead or spank your butt for improved orgasm. Bouncing off your partner can create a feeling that some women find to be super intense in a good way, obvs and leaves the external part of your clit exposed and ready to be stroked with a finger or toy, adds Steinberg. Have your partner thrust into you while they kneel and grab your hips so your thighs rest on their lap. Meanwhile, you go to town on your clit with your favorite vibe, for a nearly foolproof way to ensure you get yours too or three times or four.
Skip navigation! Story from Sex. When did you last try a new sex position? Whether or not you're in a relationship , it's all too easy to fall back on a handful of tried-and-tested moves and forget the delicious variety available to you and your partner. That's where Clare Cavanah and Rachel Venning come in. They're not only the founders of sex toy boutique and educational hub Babeland , they're the authors of Moregasm: Babeland's Guide to Mind-Blowing Sex. With insight into everything from BDSM to birth control, Moregasm is an expert yet relatable roadmap to your best-ever sex life. The book's inclusive, deftly illustrated guides to manual, oral, vaginal, and anal sex positions are our favorite part.