Ruined orgasms are orgasms that are brought about as part of tease and denial play. A partner's genitals are stimulated to the very brink of orgasm and the stimulation is abruptly ceased. Often this will result in the frustrating experience of no orgasm occurring. However, if orgasm is inevitable and happens after stimulation has been removed, it will be much less intense and satisfying than a typical orgasm. That is why it is called a ruined orgasm. Tease and denial play, including ruined orgasms, may be engaged in as part of a sexual relationship between a dominant and submissive partner. The dominant partner will control the submissive partner's pleasure and dictate whether they are permitted to orgasm.
Orgasm Denial? What the Heck Is That?
Perhaps it was as the mysterious title of an intriguingly hot new porn video on your favorite site. Or maybe it was mentioned by a veteran chastity practitioner on a forum dedicated to sharing stories. A ruined orgasm is a male orgasm in which all stimulation is stopped just as ejaculation begins. This of course means no stroking of or touching the penis. It can also include ceasing stimulation of the prostate, testicles, nipples or any other erogenous zones. While edging involves stopping stimulation just before ejaculation, a ruined orgasm pushes it just that little bit further, not stopping until he actually begins to release.
If you're new here, you may want to get my discreet newsletter to learn how to make your lover sexually obsessed with you and only you. Click here to get it. It's free. It's discreet. This kink is actually pretty common, however. Discover how denying or delaying an orgasm can lead to a bigger payoff in the end! Orgasm denial is a type of sex game that falls under the umbrella of orgasm control. At first, denying yourself orgasm might sound weird. But putting off orgasm can create sexual chemistry and result in better orgasms when you finally are able to come. Handing over that control is also arousing.
Many a professional dominatrix will tell you she will not allow submissives to orgasm during the session. I did. Mainly because if they did cum halfway through, it meant I could clock off early and get on with a nice boxset.